Bit on pain and growth

I am blessed with a few D/S relationships. Yes a few. And I love that. One of the advantages of being a life style Mistress...

Some of those relationships are very intensive, engaging, time consuming, for some I like the settings bit more relaxed. After all, we are different people with different needs. Often, in this sort of female led relationships, men get what they need or deserve, instead of what they want. One thing is certain: it's all about growth. Growth in spiritual and emotional sense.
It happens to be so, that growth often comes with pain.
Pain of salvation, jealousy, truth, love, desire, longing, change.
The only remedy for pain, is to go right through it. Full frontal, not trying to avoid it or numb it, because the healing will then only take longer.

After a while when the pain subsides, one might come to a realisation, a new insight and something beautiful starts to grow out of it.

The physical pain plays important role in our dynamics. It opens or closes important matters in life. Playing with power and pain means that you might get high on your own supply.
Inflicting pain is one of the components of power exchange dynamics, a tool for establishing authority, submission, obedience and especially trust.
Pain is healing, cathartic, part of calculated risk. Pain is important in sensory stimulation. Pain can form a strong bonding and turn into a powerful ritual. Pain helps you explore your boundaries. As we know, pain can also bring you into a deep submission and dom and sub space.

If I look closer at jealousy, I see it always comes hand in hand with friends: fear, anxiety, insecurity, resentment, sadness, anger, frustration. All these complex emotions may often lead into tension, sometimes even friction. You cannot go around them. You need to address them and take action. Most oft the time, required action is concentrated around oneself.

I don't do charity in relationships, but I value compassion. I do not want to pity my slaves, I want to feel them in my gut and heart. I want them to grow, I want to inspire, encourage and be proud.

Do I posses all wisdom? Maybe not. But as long as I choose to follow my highest excitement, my passion and as long as I choose servitude over ego…we all stay high in vibration as we are living organism.
Some of us are natural born dominants, daughters of witches they didn't burn, healers, self aware with a mission and passion. We know who we are. We are intuitive, seductive, powerful reformers.

So my relationships are beautiful and inspirational to me. They enrich my life. We don't strive for perfection, but take nothing less than excellence.