Butt Seriously… This Might Fix Your Erection

Since my previous text on pegging Why every man should be pegged at least once? turned out to be one of the most popular I've ever written, I figured it's time for a deeper dive. Let's melt those last bits of resistance, shall we?

"How does a dildo help my erection?
Do I need to tie it to Mr. Johnson?"
I like your thinking. Butt no.
Hahahaha—how do I make that link for you?

By now you're probably thinking:
"This woman would say anything to get me pegged and filled up."
And… you're not wrong.
But seriously—how on earth can a dildo in your behind help with a floppy willy?

Read on…

Tell me, babe: what are the most common types of erectile dysfunction?

1. Not being able to get it up.
2. Not being able to keep it up.
3. Coming too soon.

Now, here's a sexy little truth nugget: The synonym of erection is relaxation. Huh? Yass, babe. Let me elaborate.
Erectile dysfunction can be psychological (performance anxiety, fear of rejection or judgment, stress, depression, porn-induced numbness, trauma) or physical (low testosterone, poor circulation—hello early heart disease—side effects from meds, nerve damage from diabetes or injury). Fast and furious summing up of the World Wide Web. Butt what do they all have in common? DISCONNECTION

Anxiety, shame, bad blood flow, numbness, nervous system dysregulation—at the root, all these things say:
The mind isn't listening to the body.
The heart isn't in sync with the genitals.
The nervous system isn't regulated.
The masculine is stuck in doing, not feeling.

Psychological issues? Disconnected from presence and sensation. Physical issues? Disconnected bodily systems: poor circulation = heart disconnection, low T = hormonal disconnection, nerve damage = sensory disconnection.
And here's the kicker: you can't force an erection, you have to allow it. Game changer, right? This is where the paradoxes is: An erection is the result of deep relaxation, not tension, not effort, not ego. It rises when you soften, feel, surrender.

So, without going to deep to fast, how to fix that disconnection?

• First: awareness. Becoming aware is already the first step into the right direction.
• Then: slowness. You've heard me say it before: You can always go too fast, but never too slow. And babe… ladies love it.
  ("No, you don't always have to fuck her hard. Sometimes you've got to make some love. Give her some smooches, too…" - Tinecous D)
• Next: breathe like a motherfucker. Slow. Deep. Let your system melt.
• Somatic play enters: erotic play with sensation and presence. This could be a sensual massage, or kink in your bedroom with some BDSM sparkle…(here is your chance to bring it up again to your lady)
• And yes… ASS PLAY!!! Oh, you've been waiting for me to bring it up again, haven't you? When a man tunes into his root chakra, drops out of his head, and meets himself from the inside out - erection stops being about function…and becomes about embodiment.

So yes—grab that disco stick and ride it like Gaga intended in LoveGame.

You say: "Hold on, lady. You almost tricked me. This isn't The Matrix. I'll just take the blue pill!"
Sure, macho boy, that's your choice.
But here's the thing: Viagra works on your plumbing. Ass play works on your nervous system.It relaxes you from the inside out, unlocks pelvic tension, dissolves emotional knots (we call that "de-armouring" in tantric sessions and yes, I offer those.) It awakens pleasure that doesn't rely on performance. It reconnects your cock, heart, and spirit into one delicious, orgasmic circuit known as the microcosmic orbit (yes, darling, Tantra again).

So the next time you're thinking: "I can't get it up." I want you to remember: your erection isn't broken, you're just disconnected. And playing with your ass makes you spiritual. Yes babe, you heard me right. You're not just exploring kink, you're doing a fantASStic spiritual practice that's good for your sex life, your body, and your relationship. So, my darling:

"If you're horny, let's do it.
Ride it, my pony.
My saddle's waitin'—
Come and jump on it."

I know, I know—I sound like some ass-play evangelist, but after more than 10 years guiding others through tantra and BDSM? Trust me. The hapinASS of your cock might be just around the corner, closer than you thought. Darling… maybe your penis isn't the problem. Maybe it's time for a little detour—to the back door.